People change. Yea, big surprise. Everyone knows that. Sooner or later, people around you will start to be different. Sometimes they change for the better, while others change for the worst. It's not up to you to judge if their changes is for the better or for the worst. Most people change as they find an influencing factor that gives an impact to their lives, say a dying relative, an accident or experiencing failure. There are also positive factors that make people change such as big job and big money. What made them change does not matter, what matters is to what they've change into.
A friend just recently told me that her boyfriend is currently ignoring her, giving her the cold treatment. They've been together for almost 4 years, and her confession shocked me. He just started working, and I tried to reassure her that he'll come to his senses and be okay. But she said that the boyfriend claimed that he is not good enough for her. Heavens, who can tell if a person is the perfect match for each other? You might be in a 10 year relationship but still you see differences in each other, and that's what make it special.
It make an issue that was long put to pause arise. Can doctors be with non-doctors? I'm not trying to say that non-doctors are not good enough for doctors just because as doctors we will have our MBBS. For God's sake, it's just a piece of paper! But can the lifestyle be the same?
I've seen successful relationships, and also failures as well in these type of relationships.
Let me give you an example.
A housemen will have to do on calls and there will be times when they have to stay back up to 36 hours. This will lead to less time at home and tired physically and mentally. Housemen will have to STAY at the hospital without going home AT ALL. What will this leads to? Misunderstanding between the couple and leads to mistrust.
Things get complicated when you're a girl, you have to treat the other gender, have to go on call with them, and your loved ones cannot deny themselves from jealousy.
I am definitely not saying that ALL relationships will end up in disaster. But there's a possibility, like when you see who celebrities tying up the knot, you wonder till when will it last. This is exactly the same. You just keep on waiting for when the next shoe will drop and you're out.
I don't know what I'm going to specialize in yet, but as Dr. Ezzad said, something that has a life. Being a girl, I think I should consider that, if I ever have a family *God willing* in the future.
To all those who are medical students or doctors in a relationship with those not in the medical field, trust and communication is the foundation of every relationship. Not just to these people, but everyone out there! And yes, we have our differences, but work it out, and try to overcome it.
People change for a reason, and that's for sure.